You Are The Problem And The Solution

I have read many sales books.  And by "many",  I mean like over 20 sales books alone, not to mention books on motivation, behaviors, body language, and leadership.  I like to read, and I am fascinated by books on self motivation.  There are hundreds of them.  Why?  Because people want to get their act together, but they can't do it themselves.  Why?  Because they feel they don't know how? Well.... I say bullshit!  They know how but what they truly want is a quick fix. They want someone to do it for them.  People don't want to take responsibility even for their own lives!  How screwed up is that?

Why do you think there are so many weight loss treatments, diets, systems, and books on weight loss sold in the United States?  There are more weight loss centers like Jenny Craig, Curves, Nutri System,and Weight Watchers,  and more spent on weight loss in the U.S. then any other country in the world - $61 Billion in 2010. Why?  Well first because Americans are fat, and second because we have now become extremely lazy.  We need someone to lose our weight for us.  People don't want to commit to exercising daily, and Physical Education or "gym" has been eliminated from most public schools curriculums because parents don't want to over exert their kids.  WE ARE SOFT!

And so it goes with our jobs.  We want to learn to deal with other people, but we don't want to work at it.  We believe that someone other than ourselves,  must have an answer to our problems so we look for them in books, in newsletters, in blogs.  I am here to tell you that having read a lot of books on sales, on motivation, and on life,  they all say one thing:

"YOU.  Are sometimes the cause, but mainly the solution to all of your problems."

So don't read a book looking for a solution, and don't waste any more money on those stupid self help guides.  Those people are hypocrites!  They tell you one thing and then do another. And they say they're helping you and that might be the case, but all they really want is for you to buy their book, cd, dvd, or the whole package. It's all a scam.  They tell you the same think that is composed in that one sentence I just wrote .  "You can be both the cause and the solution to all your problems." Own it, don't buy a book or a program that tells you that.  You know it.

     A perfect example is Anthony Robbins who preached about his loving relationship with his wife of 14 years and his confidant Becky.  He advised people on how to keep their marriage fresh and new.  And then what did he do?  He traded in his old wife for his new girlfriend Sage. Yes that's right her name is Sage and surprisingly she's much younger than Becky.  Are we supposed to buy into the whole Personal Power crap when the person preaching it doesn't even abide his own philosophy? Incidentally, what he says is actually good, but he shouldn't say it if he doesn't  mean it.  And realistically all he discusses in his tapes, dvds, and books is that YOU ARE THE SOLUTION.  It's nothing new, just worded differently.

    So if you want to listen to books or get some advice on how to organize your life, those books can be very helpful.  But you know deep inside that you are the one who can effectively improve your life, your sales, your environment.  All the rest is bullshit.

Get out there, make a difference, and be a solution to your problems.

-M