17 Habits of Wildly Unsuccessful People

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In today's business world we are always looking for the quick fix, or some good advice that will help us be more successful. I can't even count all the posts on LinkedIn which begin with, "The One Thing...".  It's a bit too much for my taste.  And really, is there simply one thing that can cure all of your business issues...hell no!   However there are some good tips on developing habits which will help you not only with your job but with your life.  Unfortunately for you, this post is not about those good habits you need to develop.  Sorry! Rather, this post reflects on those bad habits you need to avoid if you want to be successful.  If you can avoid falling into the trap of developing these bad habits, you may find success in both your job and your personal life.  After reading this post, many of you might think that some of these habits are good to have, and many successful people practice these habits.  But at what cost?

"For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul?

• Tardiness - If someone really wants to be successful they can start by arriving on time.  I sometimes find myself falling in and out of this bad habit, and it gets me in trouble.  Some people are really focused on time, and if you're not timely, it can lead to a bad situation.  Be on time as often as possible, and if you are late, you had better have a damn good excuse, like a car accident, or an illness, or a death in the family.  People don't mind if you're on time, but they freak out when you're late. One example of a bad excuse for being tardy is "I was getting my nails done." Which was exactly what I heard from a guy last week...yes it was a guy.  
• Depressing - Everyone has those days where you feel like that character "Debbie Downer".  Where nothing goes right and you're in a bad mood all day.  However, if that's the way you start out everyday, then nobody will want to work with you.  Please don't feign happiness either because then you're just trying to fool yourself.  Life is to be lived and enjoyed and even though you're at work, and you may hate your job, make the most of it, and try to get through the day without bringing down everyone around you.  No one wants to work with an "Eeyore", they would prefer to work with a "Piglet".
• Whining - The only wine I want is in a glass, and I'm sure your colleagues and coworkers feel the same.  You won't make progress in your career if you're constantly whining about problems.  It is better to solve the problem than be part of the problem. I was working with a company just last month, and we were asking for input from employees.  We were in a meeting, and one guy just kept shooting down every idea offered, until finally I asked him, "Do you have any ideas on how to fix this problem?" He answered, "No.  But I know what won't work and none of your ideas are going to work.". My response was simple, "Instead of focusing on what won't work, can you please help all of us focus on what will work?  I think we'll make a lot more progress that way. You're input is more valuable in helping us find a solution, rather than pointing out problems." He grumbled a little bit, but then he helped us, which was good, because that could have become a pretty ugly situation.
• Irresponsibility - People who are wildly unsuccessful never take responsibility for anything...including themselves.  If they don't succeed it's always someone else's fault.  Or if their life is miserable it's because somebody is ruining it, but it's not them.  They have no control over how well things go, or how badly things go.  It's all out of their control and if everyone would just pitch in to help them, than everything would be alright. Granted we can't control every aspect of our lives but we should focus on what we can control, and take responsibility for our own lives and careers.  Otherwise we're just dust in the wind.  
• Self-Defeating Attitude - Yesterday, someone said to me, "I just can't do it."  I wanted to slap them, but you can get arrested for hitting your mother nowadays so I decided it was best to calm down.  And no, I would never hit my mom. But seriously, I hate when people say that can't do something even before they try.  Be realistic but don't be a defeatist. I realistically can't fly and I won't try right now because it would be suicide, but I can learn to fly eventually.  Nothing was ever accomplished by sitting on the couch, and saying "I can't do it." 
• Stupidity - I think this habit needs no real explanation. If you have a habit of being stupid, you probably won't be successful.  And by stupid I mean not using common sense, or following a reasonable thought process.  Think before you act, otherwise you're going to have a hard time getting through life.
• Myopia - Unsuccessful people have a certain way of seeing things...their way.  I once had an employee who every time a customer or a fellow employee had an issue with him, he would respond, "They're not seeing things my way.  They're not listening to me.  I'm telling them exactly what we need to do but they don't see or hear what I'm trying to get across.".  The problem wasn't with the customer or fellow employees it was with him.  He was the one not seeing or hearing other people's views and opinions. 
• Immaturity - There are people I work with who are in their 60's and I still consider them to be pretty immature, and I've met teenagers who act more mature than many adults.  It's not a question of age it's about being mature.  Handling things in a civilized manner and not pouting if you don't get your way, or throwing a temper tantrum if things don't go well.  People who are not successful have a tendency to act like they're in kindergarten rather than a university.
• Remorselessness -  People who are less than a success have a tendency to act without remorse.  In simpler terms, if they do something spiteful or they make a mistake they don't seem to care. It's as if they had nothing to do with the error or if the act is perceived as malicious they don't see how it was their fault.  Or possibly they just don't care.
• Conniving - Currently I am working with a company who has one senior sales rep who is using other people to get her work done.  She explains that since her numbers are so good what does it matter that she uses people, "lower on the totem pole", as she so aptly puts it, to her advantage. When her new manager approached her about this unfair delegation of duties, she threaten to sue for sexual misconduct on his part.  It was their first meeting and his office door was open the whole time!!!! But apparently, she has been doing this for years, using people and threatening employees and managers. She is manipulative and conniving and for sure I will help this company in any way I can to dismiss just such a person.  Karma's a bitch.
• Jealousy- I exhibit this trait all the time.  I am just as guilty as the next person of being jealous of fellow colleagues, CEO's and business owners.  Hell, I even get jealous of other people's posts!  I'll read something and think, "this post is utter crap, but 500,000 people read it." What jealousy does, is affect your ability to focus on your own goals.  If you can ignore what other people are doing, not get jealous, and concentrate on yourself, than you'll be much better off personally and professionally.
• Stealing - Unsuccessful people have a tendency to steal things.  Lots of things...like credit for a certain job, pencils, pens, commissions, and even some coworkers will steal your identity.  Yep that's right, the number one culprit of identity theft are people you work with.  And they wonder why they're unsuccessful?  They should wonder why they aren't in jail.
• Narcissism - Many people who extremely self absorbed or narcissistic are limiting their own success. They often are over looked for promotions because management doesn't often see them as "team players".  I really hate that phrase, but it's true.  If you can't be part of a team, and support a team, it's very likely you won't advance past a certain stage in your career. 
• Libelous - I was trying to think of what this habit entailed and then it came to me...it's about talking trash about people behind their backs.  If you're a person who derides people and then doesn't express the same sentiments to their face, you're going to get yourself into a lot of trouble.  You might even do it without thinking about it.  I have on occasion been asked an opinion about someone, and offered my views which were not meant to be negative, but an hour later that person will confront me and ask "why did you say that about me?"  Usually I am asked about work habits, or if the person will develop into a good sales rep, but it could turn ugly if I'm not careful with my choice of words.  Plus if I were to go around talking crap about everyone in the office, I would be spending a lot of time by myself and that's not a good thing, especially when you're the CEO.    
• Disloyal - If you can't be loyal to fellow employees or if you're a boss and you're not loyal to your own employees, than they will never be loyal to you.  Heck, in life if you're disloyal you won't have any friends, and I know that from experience. I make that statement with woeful regret.  
• Deceitful - In short, you're a cheater.  Now many people have pointed out that successful people still cheat, and they site Tom Brady and the New England Patriots.  However, I would argue that though both have been very successful, they can't enjoy their success because it will always be tainted with the stain of deception.  Despite their greatness people will always remember that they cheated. 
• Disingenuousness- Damn!  That's a big word! Simply put you're a phony, a fake, not real.  People can spot a person who is fake pretty easily.  If you don't really care about a person, don't feign sincerity, because it simply doesn't work.  Years ago, a fellow employee had a child who was very sick and our boss, who was a total jerk, said "I'm sorry to hear about your kid, but we need to get this project done by the end of the month."  He wasn't sorry. He didn't even give a damn about his employee's child and sure enough 9 months later, that guy was fired.  Why?  All of us hated him, mostly because he wasn't sincere.

I understand that many of you reading this post didn't learn anything new here, and that the habits I've outlined are obviously things we already know we shouldn't be practicing.  So then why do many of us have these habits?  And why are so many incredibly successful people, practitioners of these terrible habits? Because we're all looking to gain some type of advantage, not just in business, but in life.  Even people that are already successful still want "get a leg up" on everyone else. However you don't have to be a jerk to be a success.  In fact, I would argue that if you're a jerk, then despite all you're success, to me, you're a failure.